Society has created several categories of friendship (e.g. an acquaintance, a close friend, a best friend, a true friend, etc.). What marginalizes each sort is the intensity of the relationship — and it is mutual.
An acquaintance is simply defined as a person known to one through personal knowledge as a result of study, experience, or etc. It can also be when two persons just exchange their ‘HIs’ and ‘HELLOs’ without a sudden halt of excitement to take a chat. This type of connection may be taken for granted but in essence, this is already friendship.
In Sims, the highly-addictive game which I consider in my case, you are tasked to do what your Sim (character) desires that will pop out in his ‘needs and wants’ sidebar. One common aspiration is to have a friend. When a Sim chats with another Sim, automatically, the met-up Sim will become an acquaintance. The relationship would not abruptly become a close friend or a best friend afterward. It will all start from being an acquaintance; then to be a friend, an effort should be made use. The point is, in reality, having a friend is not a happy-go-lucky crack because you need to earn it.
A close friend is described as a trusted person whom you share and chatter with knowledgeable thoughts and commendable ideas. Compared to a best friend, you can have a couple of close friends. As what we’ve learned in our high school English subjects, a superlative degree of a word is singular. So, a best friend is supposed to be merely ONE. Nevertheless, a close friend is usually an inspiration to the other (or vice-versa) since both carve up a sense of stimulation that charges every brainwave to a purposeful and meaningful relationship.
The term ‘best friend’ has crafted a sense of bewilderment because people are usually misled in claiming to have best friends but actually, there is only one (reiteration). In this state of friendship, two individuals have a mutual relation in divulging each others’ secrets and hush-hushes. This is a higher scale of amity given that there is a valued trust in both parties. If one thinks that the other person is his/her best friend, the other should also respond to it.
Remember: it takes two to tango.
A true friend is not one of the types of friendship; better yet, it is more of an element or a quality. Three key words of this element is relationship, trust, accountability. Many people say, “Oh, he’s/she’s a good friend of mine,” yet they never take time to spend time with that “good friend.” Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, and time to invest in each others’ growth.
Real friends encourage and forgive one another whenever there comes an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. According to an anonymous author, “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” In supplementary, when everything else goes on fire, the oil will always be separate from the water no matter what – and with that, you are the fried fish.
Aside from these sorts of friendship, we have the most indispensable kind.. the faithful friend.
A faithful friend is the medicine of life, the ancients wrote and modern scientists agree that “the strongest predictor of a person’s health is the quality of his/her relationships.” A quote taken from a professor of interdisciplinary studies and expert on health analysis at Western Washington University in Bellingham who has found that friendships help people out of depression.
The Bible says, “There is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” – Proverbs 18:24. This is a precise and exact statement in defining a faithful friend. Faithfulness to us in our faults is a certain sign of great reliance in a friend. You may depend on a person who will tell you of your faults in a kind and considerate manner like a professional psychoanalyst. You might probably meet fawning hypocrites and insidious flatterers who are but the parasites upon that noble tree with palatable fruits of true friends who put enough trust in you to tell you openly of your faults.
Indeed, there is too much to talk to with regards to friendship. It is definitely a broad topic to be tackled about. This is emphatically an unfussy note to be shared, for the reason that people tend to forget the value of how it is to create a genuine bond of companionship. I hope we will not expunge or destroy the engraved link intertwined with our friends because it is so difficult to find another one for replacement – in fact, it’s simply irreplaceable.
©dust (Published in tWS)